Be honest, have you ever fantasized about being tied up? If your answer is yes, then you are part of the estimated 60% of males and 45% of females in the U.S who have. Bondage has for decades, been one of the highest ranking sexual fantasies, along with happy ending massages and threesomes.
Nowadays, bondage is a frequent part of BDSM dating and is becoming more practiced than ever before. Media is fueling the rapid spread of bandage. Originally causing uproar in the film Basic Instinct, the more recent Nymphomaniac actually caused bondage rates to saw, showing that these movies have only served to spread the appeal of bondage to a much wider audience.
But why is bondage so popular even when most people don’t want to admit to engaging in it? The simple answer is because it really is so exciting! Around 90% of people who try bondage once do it again within the next 6 months, which is certain proof that it really adds often much needed spice to the bedroom.
Here are 5 great reasons why you should try out bondage:
When it comes to great sex, excitement is truly the name of the game. We all know how great it feels the very first time we slept with someone and how that part fades the more we slept with them. This is a natural process which is the same with everything from eating too much of the same food to spending too much hanging out with a friend. The more you do something, the less it is going to excite you.
Whether you are in a long term monogamous relationship or are losing the excitement when it comes to hookup dating, bondage is a great way to throw some excitement into the mix and reignite the thrill of sex.
Tying someone up or being tied up is one of the best ways to reaffirm trust in a relationship. Though you won’t discover, until you actually try out activities like bondage or swingers dating, trust itself is actually a powerful aphrodisiac that can heighten the sexual experience dramatically.
Bondage requires a huge amount of trust because once tied up,a person will be completely at the mercy of the person who tied them up. Though the pleasure element does partially reside in not knowing what they will do to you, the only way you can truly relax and enjoy the fun is if you know that the person who is dominating you will not go too far and will stop at the slightest sign that you are unhappy.
Heightens your senses
One of the best parts of bondage is that for the person who is tied up, it multiplies the sensitivity you feel to what is being done to you. Our brains only have so much power, so as we do more things with our body, the attention we pay to certain sensitivities diminishes as others increase. For an example of this, you only need to consider how when a part of your body is suffering from severe pain it drowns out smaller pains or itches that you might have on other parts of your body.
Being tied up focuses your attention on your body’s sensitivity because the need to control your body becomes unimportant. A really effective way to heighten the senses even further during bondage is to blindfold the person who has been tied up. When we lose one of our senses the others compensate for this loss, so by removing sight, the mind focuses its attention on sounds and the feelings on the skin. Blindfolding someone tests the trust element also, leading to extremely high levels of excitement and arousal.
So what are you waiting for? It’s time to tie up and blindfold your partner.
Let you be dominated or the dominator
A key part of BSDM dating is the power play that underpins all sex. The control and application of power can make all the difference between lousy and great sex. BDSM practitioners all have one thing in common; they are obsessed with power in sex, and manipulating it in more testing ways to heighten the enormous buzz they get from it.
Bondage is the gateway to BDSM sex as it is easy to practice and exciting to most people. When compared to spanking, for example, something which most people don’t like, the gentle power of bondage as the reason for its mass appeal becomes apparent.
The sexual excitement when it comes to the dominant and submissive in bondage is really quite different. The dominant who does the tying up will feel a mastery of the situation and excitement in knowing that he or she is in control to act and is able out their fantasies. The submissive will feel an excitement arising from the danger aspect of not knowing what comes next and being totally under the control of the other. Both are equally great feelings but can be very different. This is why when it comes to bondage, most people like to take turns being the dominator and the dominated.
The reason that all of us have fantasies is that there are so many things that we can’t do in life. We fantasize about all kinds of different things, from being rich, traveling the world, being a superhero to being tied up and dominated by a good looking stranger. Sex is just one area of fantasy, but obviously an important one. The problem is that because of the stigmas that are attached to many types of sexual fantasy, we all feel like they are too dark and seedy for us to try out.
Trying out bondage at all is a huge act of defiance to conservative values that have become attached to sex, but you know what, it really feels great to do! So don’t let misguided and old fashioned views keep you from having all the fun you deserve, so grab a trusted partner and try out bondage today!