How to Get Started in BDSM Dating?

how to get started?Are you aware of the BDSM world and want to get started? The fetish dating scene is exciting. People can wear costumes, role play, and generally have fun. If you have decided that this may be the scene for you, you may be wondering how to get started in BDSM dating.

The good news is that no matter what city you’re in, the BDSM community is open and friendly. Here are some tips to help you get started.


  1. Search online for local clubs. There may be a special BDSM club in your area. These clubs may have events where people wear their regular clothes but simply chat about BDSM in a coffee shop. This is the perfect opportunity to show up and ask questions. Once you’re “in” you’ll then learn about more of the events that the club holds each month.
  1. Learn the ropes. The BDSM community is a safe and trusting one. This is because people may be tied up or handcuffed for the playroom, and it’s important to stay safe. Everything is done on a consent basis, and in a respectful manner. Whips are designed for play and will not hurt you. Often no swearing is allowed. You may not touch anyone unless you ask first. Many BDSM events don’t even allow alcohol or drugs. Ensure you know all the rules before you show up for an event, because you don’t want to get permanently banned by stepping out of place.
  1. Check out nightclub events. Most clubs have special themed nights each month. Many will have a themed BDSM night, so you can dress up, dance the night away, and play in the “dungeon”. This is your best introduction to the scene.
  1. BDSM ClubMake friends. Once you start attending fetish dating events on a regular basis, you’ll begin to make friends. Perhaps you’ll even meet some attractive singles. Once you get to know the community you may even be invited to some private house parties. This will increase your opportunity for finding other fetish singles, as often a nightclub is simply too fast-paced or busy to really get to know anyone.
  1. BDSM dating sites. Sign up for one of the dating sites. This is a simple and easy way to find other people who are interested in BDSM dating. Perhaps you don’t have a lot of time to spend at events, or are just shy meeting people at clubs. With online BDSM dating you can search through hundreds of profiles of other people who are into the scene. Then there is the option to message them through the fetish dating site so you can see if you like them or not. If you do then you can decide whether to meet up with them in person.

Fetish dating can be a lot more fun and exciting than dating people without a hobby. Now you’ll never be stuck without anyone to play with, as you’ll quickly be able to find a date through events or the BDSM sites.