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How to Have a Healthy and Safe BDSM Experience

For the uninitiated, the term BDSM involves the sexual practice of bondage and discipline or domination and submission, safe BDSM sexsadism, and masochism.  Over time BDSM dating or hookup have gotten a nasty rap, but the fundamental principles underlying it all can provide a feeling of freedom that you never imagined, and if you continue to practice it long enough, it can become a massive turn on.  So, here are some suggestions on how to have an enjoyable and safe BDSM hookup:

Play

The word “play” is frequently used with the term BDSM because this indicates that these undertakings are to be done with pleasure as the primary motivation and that the people who take part in such activities should be enjoying the experience.

Safe Word

If you are participating in fetish dating, it is essential to have a safe word ready to use if the situation calls for it.  If this word is spoken, all activity comes to a halt.  When uttered during a BDSM hookup, this word will be understood as an indication to end the BDSM activity.  It is absolutely a must to always obey the safe word.

Consent and Communication

dangerous BDSMAll types of play must be consensual so that both players can enjoy the activity and learn to trust their partner.  Also, it is vital that you communicate to your partner what your likes and dislikes are, and what your fantasies are.  We all know that the fact of the matter is that communication is essential in any sexual relationship because it allows both partners to tell the other how best to please and satisfy them.

Safe

Keeping your BDSM hookup safe means understanding that you will not injure your partner nor will they harm you.  Also, be aware that during BDSM sex, individuals sometimes go into a trance-like state called flying.  For some, this is almost a mystical experience which is why BDSM is sometimes called Sexual Magic.  It is necessary for partners to check-in with each other from time to time during BDSM sex to make sure the goings-on remains safe.

Sane

When it comes to BDSM dating both partners should have a good understanding of each other and their various likes and dislikes.  Insane is when one partner goes too far and says or does something which damages the other emotionally or even psychologically.  While it may indeed all be played, there are limits for each individual, and their partner must respect them, or some serious harm can be done.

In cases of fetish dating, if one or both partners have never done these activities before, but you both agree you want to do a little sexual exploring, that’s perfectly fine.  The key is to keep an open mind regarding sexuality, which is not limited to just what is necessary in order to complete the act.