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Where Are All the BDSM Singles?

Have you decided to give the BDSM lifestyle a try? You’ve had fun shopping at local and internet shops for BDSM supplies, and fifty shades of greyyou’ve tried them on yourself. Yet, it seems like something is missing, or perhaps it’s that special someone to help you play. After a while, solo BDSM play can be boring.

You may have realized that it’s time to try BDSM dating, or fetish dating, but aren’t certain where the BDSM singles hang out. One thing you may notice about BDSM events is that they attract a lot of couples, but if you’d rather play with singles, you’ll need to put some extra effort into finding them.

 

Here are a few ways to help you get started, so your BDSM toys aren’t lonely.

 

  1. Visit a nightclub. Often clubs have special themed nights, but even if they don’t, you’ll often find the cool BDSMers hanging out in one part of the club. These are the people who wear the black strappy vinyl and leather outfits. Generally, they’re a fun and outgoing group. You may just be able to spot them if you head out to the club one night.

 

  1. Try a BDSM dating site. This is where you’ll find people who are interested in exactly what you’re seeking: the BDSM lifestyle. A BDSM site will act a lot like an introduction service, so you can find other singles without the stigma of an alternative lifestyle. Best of all, you can pre-screen people before you even meet them. Most sites offer a chat function, and some even have video chat. This is your best opportunity to get to know a potential date in advance.

 

  1. BDSM single womanFetish dating sites. Fetish dating can be another word for BDSM, but if you search for it specifically, you may just find even more dating sites. Fetish dating can be so much more than BDSM bondage though. It can be for people who are into faux fur, stockings, corsets, or anything really. People can fetishize almost anything. So, if you think what you’re doing is weird, chances are it’s not, as likely thousands of other people have thought the same thoughts. Use a fetish dating site to find other people like you.

 

  1. Search online. It can’t hurt to do a regular online search to find out if there are any events in your region. Usually these are held at nightclubs or bars. While these types of events are fairly tame, as they focus more on alcohol and music than any sort of play, they may be a good start for meeting people.
  1. Ask fellow BDSMers. If you make it to one of the local events, start asking around about special BDSM clubs. Often some of these are private events, and they’ll give you a better opportunity to meet other BDSM singles.

 

You may feel embarrassed in the beginning with sharing your love of BDSM but soon you’ll get past that. Soon you’ll be able to find all the best BDSM dating platforms, and eventually you’ll find some great singles for some BDSM fun.